If this blog title has you going, “What’s that?” you are not alone. We live in a world that encourages us every day to be hard, disagreeable, and in some cases unkind.

In my coaching practice, I recently invited Tod, to, “Be gentle”. His reaction may be yours too. He said, “Holly, I don’t know how to do that.” Completely perplexed I didn’t know how to respond to him. “What do you mean, you don’t know how to be gentle with yourself?” I responded. Then like all the light bulbs turned on. He literally did not know it was ok to have a little grace with himself. People, it’s ok to be a bit easier on yourself. Society has conditioned our minds so much to do, do, do, and then do a little bit more than many of us do not have a “relax” setting. So, to tell someone to be “gentle” was way out there. Gentle, it means to be kind, tender, sympathetic, considerate, understanding, compassionate, benevolent, good-natured. Is this not the kind of world you want to live in? Start with you.

On another zoom call I was working with Nancy. She too was hyper-focused on her to do list. She was missing her being-ness. So focused on doing right and avoiding wrong she was beating herself up. I asked her, “What would it be like to be gentle with yourself for this one day?” Also perplexed she didn’t know. She committed to trying the practice until our next session. She was blown away a week later not only how much more productive she was, but how much better, more empowered, she felt.

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Just like you brush your teeth every day take 2 minutes and find time to shift your mind to remember that you are a good person, you are not in lack, and you have all you need to do and be who you came here to be.

Friends we are living in extreme energy times. By “extreme” I mean on every level, no doubt something in your family and relationships is changing, your country is changing either leadership or thought processes, and I can tell you from my research our planetary alignments are literally changing.

No matter where you feel the grip of stress and overwhelm you don’t have to choose that. Be gentle. Allow the change. How’s it go? Resistance is futile. Change is happening. You can choose how you deal with it.

This weekend is the third of three eclipses in a month, a partial solar eclipse. Now only readers in far Northern America (Canada) and Northern Asia will actually see this one. If you believe, like I do we are all connected you may feel it.

My invitation to you, be gentle with yourself.

Three ways you can be gentle:

  1. Drink more water
  2. Go for a 5-minute walk and be present; feel your foot hit the ground and recognize you are always supported
  3. Call a friend and connect. Ask for help or offer it. (Get a coach!)
  4. * BONUS – Listen to your favorite song.

Mindful living is the practice of being present in the moment with non-judgment. Applied mindfulness for personal empowerment is what I teach. I work with individuals and groups to find ways to be gentler, empowered and focused. If this speaks to you join my fall group coaching or private coaching sessions. Are you ready for more empowered living and leadership? Let’s connect. Call or email me!

Mindful matters and so do you!