“Are You Choosing Anticipatory Fear?”
One of the main causes for stress today is the over abundance of choices we face in any given moment. Have you tried to buy toothpaste lately? Even in that simple product choice you have more than 20 options. As leaders each day we make thousands of choices. You may choose whom to put on a specific project. Or, what clients you want to work with. You are creating the business you want, and the life you want to live with each choice.
With the light of so many choices come the dark. Abundance of choice of brings fear. Will I make the wrong choice? When I make the wrong choice what are the consequences? Anticipatory fear is felt when your mind creates panic even before decision is made. For most leaders anticipatory fear is felt when we experience in our body increased heart rate, tension, rage, or what we know as fight or flight.
Mindful leadership requires a new way to look at and make conscious choices. It starts at the beginning. What do you believe about the choice you are about to make? When you look at the choice start from knowing that you cannot make a wrong choice. As a leader you make the best choice you can in the moment.
Last week a friend and I were talking and she reminded me, “Holly your choices is either a yes, or it’s a no.” I was stressed out trying to create a million other shades of grey in between. Maybe you’ve been there, If I do this then this will happen.. and all the options are a downward spiral. I love options and most leaders do. Options are only good when we come at them from the promise of possibility and ultimately narrow them down to only positive options. No matter how many options we can create the Yes/No model my friend shared really helped me stop anticipating the bad and re-calibrate to mindful decision-making.
Tips to make easier, more mindful decisions:
On this mindful Monday you have the power to release stress in your decision-making and increase your profitability and presence. This week when you feel a choice coming on slow down, feel into your body and when possible recognize that when you anticipate fear you create more of what you don’t want – Fear. Create possibility in your choices shift to anticipatory curiosity. Let your mindful decisions start you on a new path. I wonder where this week will take me with the decision I make today?
Mindfulness matters, make it a great week!